Does it sometimes feel as if a four or five year old is at the healm of your relationships?

Do you sometimes find yourself in, what feels like, an uncontrollable outburst of thoughts and feelings, words and actions when someone close to you says or does something that you don't like?

Are you suddently thinking, saying and feeling things that are negative and disturbing?

Do you sometimes wish you could "Take it all back", regretting the things you have said? Are you or your partners or co-workers or family members or friends repeating old familiar patterns of behavior that are no longer serving you?

Do you find yourself leaving relationships often or running the same movie over and over again in your relationships?

Many of us can answer a resounding "YES" to these questions.

But Why?

The good news is there's a logical, scientifically proven reason for this common, yet not so pretty, behaviour. We do not learn about this in Science, however, or in any other school course for that matter.

We can though, learn how to change these unwanted patterns and live in complete authority over our thoughts and feelings and actions. There is a small part of us all that is still existing in the past. I say small because usually, we were small when our misconceptions about ourselves began. This part is actually huge in that it is very powerful.

It resides within you, in your energy and acts as a magnet attracting similar thinking and feeling experiences over and over again. We can change these patterns and begin to motivate from a place of self-worth, but first we must unify and love and nourish this part that is still in pain and defending us at every turn.

From this part (energy) we view ouselves and our world and our experiences in the world from an outdated lens, one that we conceptualized very early on in life.

By unifying with our "inner child" (the name given to this enrgy) we can begin to love and appreciate the beautiful and unique person that we truly are. We can awaken the qualities that we had as a child and still have We can activate the spontaneity, creativity and joy of our childhood that was and still is there, even though it may have been thwarted by the circumstances of those around us

This beautiful little child learned how to cope with his/her experiences of the past and is still believing that it has to cope in the same way, in order to survive. As a child, the threat of loss of love from a parent or guardian represented a "death". We learned to do anything to keep that Love, on whatever form it was given, as it meant survival to us. We needed our family situation to be happy.

We needed to feel loved and valued as the one that we are . We needed many things that we did not get. This is not to blame our parents or guardians.

They were coping with their own situations and were doing the best they could with the information they had at the time. We are all doing the best we can in any situation with the information we have at the time.

But, we undestand more now about our basic needs and we can begin to satisfy them in wholesome, balanced, loving and fulfilling ways.

Inner Child work is essential for those of us who have experienced difficulty in our world of human relationships. By understanding the patterns of thought that run our lives and by changing the patterns that we no longer want, by doing this in a loving and understanding way, by not criticising ourselves for our past mistakes, but learning from them, we can and DO live the lives we truly want and deserve.

Judith holds workshops entitled
"Dedicated To Your Inner Child".

See "Upcoming Events" for a schedule.
She is also willing to travel to your area.

To contact Judith regarding a workshop in your area, e-mail her at drjudith@drjudithlong.com